Family and Friends responses to loss


What you can say:


I am sorry

I love you

I’m sad for you

I’m thinking of you

I’m here for you

Take all the time you need

I don’t know what to say, but I care about you so much

The baby’s name, if the baby was named

I’m here and I want to listen

What NOT to say:


Everything happens for a reason

You can always have another baby

Be thankful it happened now, before you got to know the baby

There must have been something wrong with the baby

You’ll feel better as soon as you’re pregnant again

Your baby is in a better place now

Now you have an angel in heaven

You need to be strong

I know just how you feel

How can you help:




Cry with the family

Attend the funeral/memorial service

Remember than on their baby’s due date, birthday, and death day anniversaries

Never forget…

Remembrances you can give the family:

Planter/ flowers in a vase or a plant/tree/ rosebush as a living memorial

Original or special poem

Donation to a memorial fund





Just remember that it is never too late for expressing your feelings to a family about the loss of their baby.

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